Empathic accuracy: definition and example
Empathic accuracy is how correctly one person infers another's thoughts and feelings in a real interaction. It is measured by comparing your guesses with what the other person reports, which often reveals that confidence and accuracy are different things.
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How it is measured
Ickes and colleagues studied 38 pairs of strangers in unstructured first meetings and compared each person's inferences about the partner's thoughts and feelings with what the partner reported. Accuracy could be measured reliably, and it was not predicted by gender or by how empathic people said they were (Ickes and colleagues, 1990). The sample was small, but the gap between self-rated empathy and measured accuracy is worth noticing.
What improves it
Across 25 experiments, simply imagining another person's perspective did not improve accuracy, while getting the perspective directly through conversation did (Eyal, Steffel, and Epley, 2018). In practice, the most reliable way to be more accurate is to ask and listen.
An example
After a meeting, you are sure your colleague is angry because he went quiet. You check: "You seemed quiet after the budget news. How are you reading it?" He says, "Honestly, relieved. I thought they would cut my project entirely." Your read of his face was confident and wrong. The question took ten seconds.
Why confident guesses go wrong
People often fill gaps with their own feelings, assuming others would react the way they would. Faces and silences are also ambiguous. The fix is not to stop guessing; it is to treat the guess as a draft and ask a light question before acting on it.
Why it matters for EQ
Many people rate their empathy highly. Accuracy is a separate, checkable thing. See perspective taking, active listening, and self-report bias.
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Research notes
- William Ickes, Linda Stinson, Victor Bissonnette, Stella Garcia (1990). Naturalistic social cognition: empathic accuracy in mixed-sex dyads. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. In unstructured first meetings of 38 mixed-sex pairs, empathic accuracy (how well a person infers a partner's thoughts and feelings) could be measured reliably, and was predicted by the partner's attractiveness, the perceiver's interest, grade point average, and self-monitoring, but not by gender or self-reported empathy. Limits: lab study with strangers; small sample. doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.59.4.730
- Tal Eyal, Mary Steffel, Nicholas Epley (2018). Perspective mistaking: Accurately understanding the mind of another requires getting perspective, not taking perspective. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 114(4), 547-571. Across 25 experiments, telling people to imagine another person's perspective did not make them more accurate about that person's thoughts or feelings, while directly asking the person in conversation did. doi.org/10.1037/pspa0000115
Related
- No. 01EQ glossaryThe words behind emotional intelligence, defined.
- No. 02Perspective takingPerspective taking is deliberately imagining a situation from another person's point of view.
- No. 03Cognitive empathyCognitive empathy is understanding what another person is feeling and why, without necessarily feeling it yourself.
- No. 04Active listeningActive listening is a way of listening that shows you understood: you reflect back what you heard, ask questions that invite more, and hold off on advice.
- No. 05Self-report biasSelf-report bias is the general problem that people's descriptions of themselves can differ from how they actually think, feel, or behave, because of limited insight, memory, mood, or the wish to look good.
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